This week my family has required my full attention. Ensuring my children have a successful back to school experience is my priority this time of year. This means listening to all their new adventures, helping them acclimate to their new routine, and taming the chaos this first week of school.
It’s weeks like this where I feel the stress of having a blog but I am working on letting go of pretty much everything – stress, guilt, negative energy, people who aren’t that into me, things, hurtful memories, and the list goes on.
While I didn’t want to leave you hanging this week, I also don’t have a lot of time to hang out. Let’s play a quick game of catch up and don’t forget to SIGN UP for our newsletter!
Our newsletter, The Successletter, has become my priority. I enjoy the more intimate engagement with our most devoted readers. So, once in a while there may be a week with no blog post (life happens), there will always be The Successletter! It is full of informative links, tips, tricks, hacks, and more personal updates from FSL Headquarters. Readers are encouraged to send me helpful links to be spotlighted and I will gladly give you a hat tip! (yes, bloggy friends, it’s ok to send me a link to your own work).
The biggest thing in my life right now is my health and taking a holistic approach to overall wellness. I have always believed in holistic health but I think my view of “healthy” has been skewed. For example, I eat a real food diet the majority of the time with a few treats here and there. However, almost every meal I eat is “on the run” or in front of a screen. There is a lot of mindlessness that goes into my consumption of food.
“In front of a screen.” And then there is that. Most of my day if not all of my day is spent in front of a screen whether it is at work or through blogging/social media. I can’t help but think about how the EMF exposure is effecting my health.
I talk a lot about organization and productivity. It’s kind of my thing. It’s my thing because it is something I need to be the most mindful of. My writing serves as a reminder for myself first and then to serve others in however they want to receive my words. I am energetic, passionate, and love to be involved. These qualities require much reigning in. It isn’t that these qualities are unhealthy but they usually come at the expense of an extra hour of sleep or cause unneeded stress. I am hyper focused on the critical few right now.
As some of you may know, I am working on healing my body from Adrenal Fatigue. My symptoms include:
- Extreme exhaustion making it hard to get out of bed on some days.
- Digestive problems.
- Brain fog.
- A number of different “itis'” – plantar fasciitis and tendonitis of the supraspinatus
- Disrupted sleep.
- Here are some other symptoms that might indicate your adrenals are broken.
Under the care of a Naturopathic Doctor, I am taking a mega load of supplements to get me through the day with consistent energy levels and give me a solid night sleep. These have been helpful in my recovery but not as helpful as the lifestyle changes I have been making. The supplements didn’t completely do the trick with the irritability, brain fog, and heaviness in my body.
Shifting priorities to accommodate my health and my life has not been easy. I have taken some pretty deliberate and in my opinion drastic measures to put my healthy first. Here are some things that are working for me in support of my health:
SLEEP comes first.
Whenever in doubt, the answer is sleep, rest, nap, recharge. I like to get up at 5 am but I have shifted this to 5:45 am. I stick to a consistent bedtime. If I can’t because sometimes life happens, I adjust my wake up time to give me a minimum of 8 hours of sleep. I realize I have a choice. If I want to stay up later to say go out with friends or watch a movie, then I can do so if I am willing to give up my plans for the next morning. It’s a trade off but one that I control.
For now, gone are the days of the run. While I haven’t run in a long time due to pneumonia that gave way to plantar fasciitis that gave way to Adrenal Fatigue, it has taken me just as long to let go of running. Many failed starts and ultimately stops has told me, this is not my path right now. Instead I am working on being active throughout the day. Walking breaks and working in short circuits numerous times throughout the day is working. Brushing teeth – squats for 2 minutes. Read a chapter in a book then stop for wall sits, plank, squats, and push ups. Try a few pull ups while cooking dinner. Waiting for water to boil…dynamic stretching and some high knees. Definitely not my mental picture of a workout but it is working. It has also allowed me to cancel my gym membership. My gym had bad energy.
Protect my energy.
This is where things have become the most drastic in my opinion. Through regular reiki treatments, meditation, and a consistent yoga practice I have been able to get more in tune with my energy. I have become more clear on what is working for me in my life, what needs to be resolved, and what needs to simply be let go. I am reevaluating how I pretty much do everything. New boundaries are being drawn. It is hard to put into words because to my “energy” is very meta physical and intangible to others…only I can really feel my energy. The best illustration is to give you some examples of the changes I have made:
- Everything is evaluated as either a “heck yes” or a “no.” I am minimizing any grey area in my life when it comes to where I place my attention and ultimately my energy.
- Limit my use of social media. I am now only really spending time where I feel the most authentic – Facebook, Instagram, and Pinterest. The Twitter app is off my phone and I check it once or twice a day. My media of choice for interacting with my blog readers? The Successletter. My newsletter is where I feel the most authentic connection. This probably requires it’s own blog post.
- Limit time on email. I removed email from my iPhone. I also manage my subscriptions dilligently using unroll.me.
- Don’t associate with anyone or anything that feels like it has negative energy. Bye-bye gym membership, moms who engage in mom drama, inanimate objects that feel heavy, companies with negative employees, and etc.
Inanimate objects that feel heavy?
Yes. This was surprising to me too. The past two weeks I have spent getting rid of 80% of my furniture and LOADS of personal items. By nature, my furniture was heavy. I had chosen a traditional style decor when we moved into our house 12 years ago. Dark pieces, dark rugs, heavy wood with pedestal or claw type legs. Then I noticed (just this last week) that the furniture has absorbed some of the negative or unhappy energy that has passed through our lives over the last 12 years. Our struggles to run a business, our financial struggles, my struggles as a mother who works outside the home, and even the death of John’s mom. It all had to go.
It was hard for me to let go. I am not an overly sentimental sort but I loved the furniture when I bought it and some of it was given to us as a gift from my mom. Through the clarity I have gained over the last two weeks (meditating, reiki and yoga), I was able to connect with the feelings I had for my Mom and disconnect from the actual “thing.” While the piece of furniture is gone, my gratitude for her love and generosity is still with me.
I learned that letting go isn’t giving up. Letting go is simply another way of reframing our perspective.
Since this post was meant to be quick, I have chosen to leave it unedited. Please forgive typos, grammar mistakes, and the meandering nature this post has seemed to take on. This is me letting go and letting life be a little random, unscripted, and imperfect.
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